Thoughts from Counselors

To thine own self be true


How are you doing lately about taking care of yourself?  Are you feeling overwhelmed?  Bored? Like you need three days sleep?

Self care is important to overall health and wellness. We’ve all heard about the negative effects stress can have on our minds, bodies, and relationships, and balancing all of life’s demands can be difficult at times.  Sometimes it is important to take a step back from all that is going on and just give yourself a break.  According to author Cheryl Richardson, through self care “(w)e become conscious and conscientious people. We tell the truth. We make choices from a place of love and compassion instead of guilt and obligation.”

Richardson suggests three strategies it may be helpful to try.

1. Discover when, where, why, and how you feel deprived. Knowing this helps you decide how to best approach your self-care.

  • What do I need more of right now?
  • What do I need less of right now?
  • What is causing me to feel resentful and why?
  • What am I yearning for right now?

2.  Find your own rhythm and routine. Routines often help us feel stable, secure, safe, and serene.

  • What one routine could I put into place this month that would improve my life the most?
  • Take the next 30 days to implement this routine and evaluate how it is impacting your life.

3.  Create an “absolute no” list.  This list represents the things you refuse to tolerate in your life.

  • Write the list somewhere you can refer to it as needed for reminders of the boundaries you have set for yourself.
  • Change the list as needed to reflect your current experiences and priorities.
  • Ex: do not volunteer for any more projects; resolve not to use your credit card until the balance is paid off; stop negative self-talk

Self-care may seem awkward at first, but you will soon begin the to feel benefits and rewards.  Taking care of yourself will allow you to become a better student, tutor, parent, friend, etc.

Here are some other self-care ideas:

    • Visit the TTU MindSpa
    • Exercise
    • See a counselor
    • Cook dinner with friends
    • Make a to-do list
    • Volunteer for an organization that helps others
    • Send a friend a card or note “just because”
    • Read for pleasure
    • Schedule out your day so that will feel productive
    • Clean your house/apartment/room
    • Go to bed early
    • Cuddle or play with a pet
    • Schedule a night out with friends (extroverts)
    • Turn down a night out with friends (introverts)
    • Ask for help

The most important thing to remember about self-care is this: You are worth it!



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